Okay as a BM I had a question. My son is now 8 months old, was given for adoption at birth. I keep in fairly close contact with the AP's, but was just curious about something. We have an "open adoption" but wondered what everyone thought the limits of what I should or should not ask for is?Answer Question
Answer by LovingSAHMommy at 11:38 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
Answer by katiPeas at 2:38 AM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by TJFBGMommy at 7:14 AM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:40 AM on Nov. 22, 2010
It really is too bad that this wasn't agreed to before relinquishment when you had some power. Now, they have all the power and you have none. Here's what I think you have the right to in open adoption.
1. To know their name and address. If you have to communicate through the agency, you really don't have open adoption and sometimes the agency will close the adoption just because it's inconvenient for them to keep it open.
2. Regular, agreed upon communication OR visits between you and your son. If your son is not involved in the communication you do not have an open adoption but an adult relationship, and your son will have a closed adoption experience. Kinda defeats the point. Open adoption is NOT co-parenting, never question the aparents parenting decision. Good luck :)
Answer by onethentwins at 1:04 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by CarlieJS at 2:33 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by Southernroots at 2:48 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 5:33 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 5:38 PM on Nov. 22, 2010