I am getting married in March and my fiance' s parents are shall we say, less than thrilled. Though they were always nice to me and my 3 year old dd before we got engaged, they were PISSED when they found out he proposed (he didn't tell them before hand because they are kinda controlling and they would take him telling them that he is going to as him asking if it is ok. His mom didn't even want to go wedding dresss shopping with me and my mom when I invited her. Anyway, from Sept 09 till last May things were kinda rocky, when they saw me they were a bit cold towards me and reffered to me as his "girlfriend" but otherwise still pleasent (everyone kinda walked on egg shells. But then in May, they had a problem because we went to Disney World on vacation for five days (me, him my dd and my family). They were mad because he didn't want to go to the Philippines for 2 weeks with them (he didn't have 2 weeks worth of time off at work) and tried to convince him not to marry me. He said there was nothing they could say, he would still marry me and if they don't like it they could not be apart of it. So they stopped talking to him after that and they have hardely spoken since. His mom invited us to Thanksgiving and Christmas (we can't go for Thanksgiving cause he is working, but we'll prob go for Christmas). Anyway the wedding is getting really close, we are going the traditional route and my parents are paying for most of the wedding. His parents said last May that they will not pay for anything for our wedding which is fine but they expect us to invite about 10 of their friends that he doesn't even know. They also want no part of the planning (exept tellin me who to invite). I know they still don't want him to marry me and I almost want to say that I don't want anyone there that neither me nor my fiance' knows. Part of me wants to say that if they can't be postive about the wedding, they don't need to come. I just wish they would come around. Is it said that all I want is for my future in laws to be nice to me?
Answer by okmommy08 at 2:59 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
Answer by rebeccadac at 2:53 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
I personally would not involve them in anything. I would just send them an invitation. Sence they do not want to help pay for anything. I would not invite any of their people. Just family on you SO's side.
Answer by louise2 at 2:54 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
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Answer by ria7 at 3:09 PM on Nov. 22, 2010