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Is it okay to put your child in his/her room while being in trouble if they are screaming their heads off? What is the limit and what do you do to stop them from throwing a bigger fit than what originally got them in trouble?

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BriTony08

Asked by BriTony08 at 5:15 PM on Nov. 22, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Perfectly ok, put some ear plugs on and you are good to go.
    older

    Answer by older at 5:17 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • Depends on their age. By 2+, by all means. I'm not going to listen to their tantrum. If they want to scream they can do it in their room.
    Ginger0104

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 5:18 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • I had one child for whom isolation was the only way she'd calm down and the other for whom it was torture (and she wouldn't calm down at all)... it depends on the child.

    Generally, whatever is applied to a frantic child who's lost his ability to deal with the world, if it's done with a sense of 'teaching' or 'guiding' it's probably a better idea than anything --no matter what it might look like in a written description-- done to punish the child.
    LindaClement

    Answer by LindaClement at 5:19 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • I agree with you both, but was told that i was a "bad parent" for letting them scream it out in their room. They are 3 & 4, i think this is okay for me to do at this point.
    BriTony08

    Comment by BriTony08 (original poster) at 5:19 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • You have to do what is right for your family & your sanity! I would not tolerate screaming at the top of their lungs, or cursing, or destructive behavior. If they must scream to express their anger, tell them to scream into their pillow. Hit their pillow too. Once they are calm, they can join the sane world again -along w/ saying they're sorry to you of course! Good luck. I dont miss that age. :)
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:25 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • i totally agree with the other mom's:)))
    TiffanieAnn

    Answer by TiffanieAnn at 5:25 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • Let them cry it out. Tantrums at home should be ignored, the more you play into them or yell for them to stop, only fuels the fire. Placing the child in a quiet enviroment and allowing them to regain control of their emotions is best (JMO). It teaches them to deal with emotions, just make sure they are in a safe enviroment that they cannot hurt themselves or anyone else while they are having the tantrum. Eventually they will learn that they cannot get their way by showing out like that.
    AingealsBabies

    Answer by AingealsBabies at 5:26 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • by all means not a bad parent. a smart one you are
    chanelsparkels

    Answer by chanelsparkels at 5:39 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

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