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how do i get her to stop pooping her underwear and lieing

shes gona be 4 in may shes been potty traind for about 6 mths or so and the last 5 wks shes been pooping her pants atleast 3 times a day when askd why she repiles idk or mommy told me not to , iv tryd everything from bribery to cold showers to clean up u name it i more than likely tryd it nothing works im at my wits end please help me make her desperate

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Asked by missiemc at 8:58 PM on Nov. 22, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • cold showers!??

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:00 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • My daughter has a bowl problem, and its been a nightmare for us.. she is missing some of the nerves that let her know when she needs to go, so as long as you know its nothing like that going on that she cant help, im sure its just a phase! How to make it stop though?... im not so sure! (: good luck, i feel your pain! maybe take away privledges?

    Answer by mohme2three at 9:02 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • p.s. make sure shes not afraid to sit on the potty long enough to go, she may just be scared!

    Answer by mohme2three at 9:02 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • Pretend like she is 12 months.
    Do not say ANYthing.

    Clean it up like you would with a baby.
    Speak not a word, do not act upset.

    She is NOT doing it to anger you.
    Whatever her reason, she can NOT help it.
    Making her feel badly and punishment doesn't help her to move past this.

    What could be the reason?
    What do you think?
    Is there even a "reason? --really?

    Obviously you are upset about it and she doesn't want you to be mad.
    I would probably lie too.

    Instead, if you MUST bring it up, offer her pull up or her diapers to poop into so she can appreciate that undies aren't for that.


    Answer by doulala at 9:05 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • I hope the person that said cold showers was joking.

    Answer by Andeigh at 9:08 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • has something changed? i know my 4.5 year old has sort of gotten a fear of going potty by herself due to DH's deployment.

    Answer by lizzeh at 9:10 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • The op said cold showers. The reply was one of incredulity.

    Answer by madamonet at 9:11 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • Omg. Cold showers really? Isn't that child abuse? You should be ashamed of yourself OP

    Answer by Andeigh at 9:15 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • yes cold showers i was told to clean her by puting her in a not so cold bath or shower because she wnt like it it will make her stop ya kneedless to say it didnt work after trying it once so thats out i know i know its crul but nothing else works so what am i to do and iv tryd taken away toys her blanket her tv the cups at bed time makeing her sit in it for a few hrs makeing her sit on the potty for long periods of time given her toys and candy takeing her to the park ignoreing her spending more time with her yelling at her talkjing to her notihing worksw nothing so all i have left is puting her back in pull ups and giveing her baby food she wants to act like a baby treat her like one and thatg came from a dr for all of u that think im mean or abusive or what have u i did consault a dr and they recomened pretty much everything on here includeing the baby food

    Comment by missiemc (original poster) at 9:21 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

  • I think you randomly sit her on the potty everal times a day just to make sure she doesnt have to go

    Answer by fryshannon34 at 10:17 PM on Nov. 22, 2010

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