I love my FaceBook -- but I do not play any games on there and I do not participate in any apps either. I use it to stay in touch with all of my family and people I grew up with.
My BFF (of nearly 9 years) talked me into the playing the zoo game over a year ago - in about 2 months I made it all the way to the last 'level' --- and then I quit it. I've since had to endure lots of aggravation and irritation from my BFF because I do not share her enthusiasm with it - STILL. It literally got to a point where I gave her my her my password and told her to go 'gift' all of my animals to her zoo and leave me alone with it.
It's a shame, really, and a blotch on her - not me - but since then - she NEVER visits me on FB anymore. BUT she certainly get upset if she posts pictures or video or something and *I* don't go look at it. I've noticed, primarily in the last 3/4 months that I just don't care to talk to her as much any more either.
Every conversation is always about her. And we can't have a single conversation that isn't interrupted 3 or more time with her saying "hang on, so & so is calling" -- then she puts me on hold and many times (as of lately) I've gotten to where I just hang up after about 5 minutes on hold. Or she'll say "let me call you back" and then she doesn't. But Heaven forbid if I don't answer when she calls or she leaves more than one voice-mail and hasn't heard back from me ... she will THEN start blowing up my FB inbox and email and she has even been known to call my husband to make sure I'm alright. After about the 50th time she did this to me, I found that I really began to feel like our friendship has become very one-sided and I just am losing interest.
Tonight I got too curious for my own good and went looking at her FB posts and her comments to other people - for a long time I thought she just wasn't a 'responder to posts' but I find that she responds to everyone, comment on their status, photos, blah blah blah - just not mine. Not to be petty or anything like that - but I have thought of maybe deleting her as a FB friend just to find out how long it would take her to even notice. (that could be a great indicator, huh, and at the very least a very good dialogue starter because right now I don't even feel like I want to broach this subject with her)
It took me 4 years before I would acknowledge her as my BFF because I don't like those kinds of things - it just feels too possessive for me; and when I did finally refer to her as my BFF she was like over the top happy-giddy (like she heard I love you from a man for the first time). I feel like she looks down on me a lot, and pities me (because her relationship with her grown children is better than mine is with my children). I know she loves me - I just feel like she's really lost sight of who I am - and to her I've stopped being a person and starting being "just" her support stem.
What are your thoughts? I'm posting anonymous because I don't want a lot of feedback in my CM email - I don't want pity, I want honest feedback. Don't really even need advice - just share with me your experience and your wisdom and what you think -- especially about deleting her from my FB.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:38 PM on Nov. 22, 2010 in Relationships
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