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she had 5 kids and hasnt raised a single one!!

his bio mom is psycho shes in and out of her kids lives. she had 5 kids and hasnt raised a single one because shed rather take care of herself with sex and drugs. im pregnant with her oldest sons baby(this will be our second)she recently took off again only text to see if ive had the baby.we dont text back but i want to tell her to just keep doing what shes doing where ever she is we dont want anything to do with her./f*ck off and die is what id rather say. but i dont think it is fair the way she has treated her kids and i dont want my kids to be treated like that. i know she just wants to see the baby and then hang around for a little and then disappear again. should i let her get a look and then leave or cut it off now?

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:20 PM on Jul. 5, 2008 in About CafeMom

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  • Well this is just my opinion, and I don't know the whole story.

    But whether "Good, bad, or in-different" she is always going to be his mother. And you really have to tread lightly in this area, especially if your husband doesn't feel the same as you. You have to except all of her, including all the bad.

    If she isn't putting you or your children in harms way, if she isn't belittling you in-front of your children, then what is really the harm? So she gets a look and then disappears. There is many married women who wish that their MIL would disappear long periods at a time. 


    Answer by sweetpea04 at 3:13 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • Oh one more thing, if your husband does agree, and doesn't want her around. He should be the man, and tell his own mother not you. That way it is coming from the horses mouth. His mother will be forced to accept what he has to say as the truth. Not being able to blame you for her not being able to see him or his children.

    Answer by sweetpea04 at 3:16 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • GREAT answer sweetpea04!! Great Answer!!

    Answer by vbruno at 3:38 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • its so hard to see someone you love being hurt and not treated good, but she is his mom and the kids grand mom shes very sick and leaves because she doesn't want you guys to see her like that and comes around when shes on the wagon. she probably figured it was better for her to give up the kids then have a fucked up mom. Maybe it realy was for the best.

    Answer by amylong at 2:58 AM on Jul. 25, 2008

  • I agree with sweetpea

    Answer by mamaofficer at 3:19 PM on Sep. 9, 2010

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