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How do I get it to stop?

I've always been told by doctors and my mother and other family members that it's good for a baby to cry and that they don't need to be picked up everytime they cry....How do I get my MIL to STOP picking my almost 8 month old up constantly...every time he cries she picks him up so when it's time for bed and he cries he expects us to pick him up...how do I stop it because she doesn't listen for crap and comes up with the excuse "I don't like to see him cry, it breaks my heart"....ahhh...I can't stand it! My second question is how do I get my son to stop gritting his teeth I know he's teething and he's already got his front four teeth but he grits them...how do I get him to stop?

 
thutch21

Asked by thutch21 at 11:54 PM on Nov. 23, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • It drove me crazy when people picked my daughter up every time she cried..It's your kid if you don't like something someone is doing just tell them. It might make MIL mad but once again it is your child. I also know many kids who were held constantly and are very normal and not brats. I chose not to do it because I was alone (my husband was deployed and I have no family near by) and couldn't hold her all the time so when someone did it I told them she was fine and to let her cry a little. As far as the teeth grinding please let me know if you find the answer because my daughter does it too.
    Anon344

    Answer by Anon344 at 8:52 PM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • I think CIO is cruel and causes babies anxiety. Even if you let the child CIO it should never be more than 15 min
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 PM on Nov. 23, 2010

  • i agree with the first answer. i do however think that letting them cry for a short amount of time to see if maybe they will calm themselve quickly is ok, but like she sadi, never more then 15 min.
    momslikeme366

    Answer by momslikeme366 at 12:09 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • Sorry, but I'm with MIL on this one. Babies don't cry because they "want" to be held. They cry because they NEED to be held. They thrive with more human contact (why do you think attachment parenting is so popular?).
    I would cry when DS cried when he was an infant, if he cried for too long, and I never just left him when he cried.
    I don't mean to sound judgmental, but your MIL has a point here.
    musicpisces

    Answer by musicpisces at 12:10 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • Sorry, but I'm with MIL on this one. Babies don't cry because they "want" to be held. They cry because they NEED to be held. They thrive with more human contact <<<<<<<<<<---------- THIS!!!!!!!!
    Crafty26

    Answer by Crafty26 at 12:15 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • You need to carry your baby. It's NOT good for them to cry.

    http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp

    http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/1998/04.09/ChildrenNeedTou.html

    http://babyreference.com/attachmentparenting.htm

    http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/laura_simeon.html

    http://www.parentingweb.com/ap/babywearing.htm

    http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2003-06-08-maternal-stress_x.htm

    http://www.mothering.com/articles/new_baby/bonding/connection.html

    http://www.theregister.co.uk/2006/07/14/the_odd_body_crying/
    jus1jess

    Answer by jus1jess at 12:17 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • I've always picked my son up when he's cried, and at 14 months, he's doing just fine and goes to sleep easily. I agree with you MIL. I think that comforting them makes them more secure in the long run.
    LovingSAHMommy

    Answer by LovingSAHMommy at 11:30 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • About your MIL, just tell her what you've said here, be honest and kind of stern. It's YOUR child =)
    WhitneyMommyOf2

    Answer by WhitneyMommyOf2 at 1:35 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • Wow and how many children do you guys have....if you new my MIL it would drive you crazy tooo....any any doctor will tell you IT IS GOOD for a baby to cry...it makes their lungs stronger and not only that but no I do not let my son cry more than 10 minutes but yes a baby does know when they are being spoiled by being held all the time....obviously a lot of you don't discipline your children....if you have any older than 1 anyways....any peds doctor will tell you that they don't need to be held constantly! And they know by 6 months when they are being spoiled!
    thutch21

    Comment by thutch21 (original poster) at 2:01 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • I held my now 2 year old every time she cried and now she's clingy and it drives me crazy. We went to playgroup for the first time last month and she was the only one that wanted to be held all the time. The 20 other kids were cool with walking around on their own. It was at a pumpkin patch that has a petting zoo and bakery.
    badgirl44654

    Answer by badgirl44654 at 10:00 AM on Nov. 24, 2010