My very- soon -to- be- husband is a doormat especially when it comes to his ex wife and mother of his children !
They came up with this stupid arrangement that everyday, my husband gets them from school, and they stay here for an hour 1/2 - 2hours until she gets off of work, and then every other weekend they are here.... when they have days off of school they are here all day, and during the summer they are here all day ...... my husband works midnight shift, when he gets home he has to sleep and then as soon as he wakes up he has to watch them, by the time we leave we have to get supper and he gets ready to go to work again.... it is just so choppy and a mess, we cant even feel like a real life together or a real family because it is crazy to have this kind of schedule.... if you think of it he doesnt even get a break for himself or for us.....
I have been talking to him and trying to get him to think that it would be better to try and get full custody of them, then he could work a regular work schedule ( during the day when they are at school ) ... and if she wanted to see them she could be the one having to spend her evenings running here and there to get them and bring them back ! Not to mention we would be the ones getting child support instead of paying it and that would also let my hubby work less !!!
Asked by Anonymous at 12:13 AM on Nov. 24, 2010 in Parenting Debate
Answer by meagan678 at 12:15 AM on Nov. 24, 2010
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Answer by Izsarejman at 12:20 AM on Nov. 24, 2010
You sound like my Dh about the "regular work schedule" Ok I work 3rd shift. I go to sleep when they get on the bus, I get up when they get off the bus. I'm drinking my coffee as they are getting their after school snacks. Still drinking my coffee as I help with homework. I make supper, they take baths, they go to bed, I go to work. If he was working days, it would be he gets home most likely after they do, homework, supper, baths, bed. Schedule would still be hectic! Trust me, done days and done nights. I would much rather do nights. Unless your Dh wants to change it, don't. I think that it's nice that he watches them rather than them going to a sitter or after school care of some sort. Plus both parents get to see them every day, and can be active in their lives.
Answer by fallnangel3 at 12:24 AM on Nov. 24, 2010
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