My mother in law is raising my husband's brothers son who is 8 years old... His birthmom was addicted to drugs when he was born which is my my MIL has him now ( she adopted him ), but the fact that my MIL literally lets him do as he wants doesnt help...
She cant handle him now and now wants my husband and I to step in... she always wants him to come stay with us because it is hard for her to handle him ( she is 70 years old ) .... We keep him sometimes and I have tried to get him to join things like pee-wee football, karote, baseball.... just anything to help him get his energy out, but since MIL is his actual parent and has the say-so she lets him quit after the first day when he doesnt feel like going back, and therefore it doesnt work.
he is 8 years old and he wont go to the bathroom... I know he knows how to because he wont go at school, only at home, and he will say he didnt feel like getting up .
He destroys everything - coloring on the walls and furniture with perm. marker, even smashing food on the walls or purposly breaking things.
he doesnt listen and tries to sneak to do things ( I will tell him not to do something so he will watch me to make sure I am not looking and do it anyways) ...
Wether it is laziness ( or being spoiled as MIL doesnt punish him or correct him when he does this stuff) or actually something wrong ... we think MIL needs to take him to talk to someone , but she said no because she doesnt want anyone to give him "zombie pills" .....
I honestly think it is laziness because he acts fine at school ! But that is still not normal right?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:47 AM on Nov. 24, 2010 in Parenting Debate
Answer by Scuba at 9:50 AM on Nov. 24, 2010
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Answer by tootoobusy at 9:57 AM on Nov. 24, 2010
It sounds like he is spoiled. If he can do things at school he can do them at home. I would not bail out your MIL's poor choices with the boy unless you and your hubby had custody of him so that your decisions actually stick. Honestly, I don't think a 70 year old has any business raising a kid, but I'm sure there are plenty out there who disagree with me.
Answer by scout_mom at 10:07 AM on Nov. 24, 2010
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