that's such a selfless love!
i really don't understand some of the posts that claim adoption is wrong & that it hurtful to children. there was no way either of my birthmothers could have parented the child they had. one was so high on dope & meth she couldn't even get to the hospital to deliver. my son was born w/ drugs in his system.Â she is clean and sober now & we have a great relationship, but the only reason she is (and she would tell you this) is because the unconditional love & support the adoption agency & adoptive family (me) gave her. the other was 14 yrs old, w/ no family support to speak of. her mom was hooked on drugs & she did not know her father. how could she have raised my daughter on her own? both of my birthmothers did what was best for thier children, not for themselves. adoption is a loving choice for many women! please don't disparage that!
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Answer by Anonymous at 12:46 PM on Nov. 5, 2008
Yes, with every fibre of my being. Saying that it is a selfless love implies that it would have been selfish of me to raise my own baby. Do you think I would not have been a good mother to my son? I would have. When I gave up my son I was ignorant about the lifelong effects of adoption, particularly to the adoptee. Children are not blank slates and are hurt by being separated from their mothers, growing up in a household without the benefit of genetic mirroring. http://library.adoption.com/Parenting-and-Families/Lifelong-Issues-in-Adoption/article/256/1.html My worst regret is how my son has been hurt by what I did. And before you say it, he had model adoptive parents.
Answer by onethentwins at 7:55 PM on Nov. 5, 2008
"But I certainly don't want her to regret that she provided our child with a loving family and a healthy environment to grow up in"
shouldnt that read "her" child.
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