Downgrade the importance, in your mind, of having a baby yourself.
While you're obsessed with the idea that 'if only I got pregnant' as the sole idea that will make you happy, complete you, allow you to grow and mature into the right kind of you, share parentage with your lover, etc, you have constructed (and continue to reinforce) an impenetrable barrier to your own happiness.
When you get busy doing something else you value highly in your life, whether or not you have children will re-set itself as a point of interest rather than a necessary condition for your happiness. If having children to raise is so very, very important to you, start the process to adopt right now --don't wait, or no one (even you) will believe that it is actually important to you at all.
If you choose to do nothing at all toward what you say you want, clearly what you want is to be miserable --and I doubt that a lot.
at 1:08 PM on Nov. 24, 2010