We finally agreed this year that we do not want to make Santa out to be a literally real figure in our son's life. We will play Santa, even labeling gifts from him and leaving out cookies and milk, but he won't be any more real than Blue or Elmo. We are comfortable with this, but if you feel led to share your reasons to do the opposite, feel free.
My main issue is (surprise, surprise) my mother in law. She is a HUGE fan of Santa Claus, and completely believes in going the whole nine yards. All of her kids 100% believed in Santa. She rang jingle bells when they were in bed, threw rocks on the roof to sound like reindeer hooves, took bites out of cookies, as well as threatening them with the "naughty" list as often as possible during the last quarter of the year. I am NOT saying that this is bad, just using it to sort of show how much she loves the Santa myth.
If she finds out our approach to Santa, she will not approve. I don't know if she would go as far as to make a fight out of it, but I wouldn't be surprised. She will use it to insult our parenting choices every chance she gets, just like she has ever since we banned Red 40 from his diet due to behavior issues we were having.
If you were in my shoes, how would you handle this situation? Would you go ahead and let her know what's going on, and tolerate the jabs and insults? Or would you just instruct the child to play along at Grandma's house?
Answer by Iamasinglemom99 at 2:30 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
Answer by ryanlynn at 2:31 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
Answer by charlotsomtimes at 2:39 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
Answer by charlotsomtimes at 2:40 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 2:45 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
Answer by minimo77 at 2:48 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
You child is going to believe in Santa, you are just not going to be as extravagant as your mother in law, right? That is how I read it. If this is the case just tell her that you don't want to go over-board with the whole make believe thing. Remember your child is only going to have this innocence once, and before you know it he is grown....that's it. Everything will seem silly to him instead of magical, so let him make the most of being a child.
Answer by Conley639 at 2:52 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
Answer by charlotsomtimes at 2:55 PM on Nov. 25, 2010
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