We placed our baby up for adoption at birth. Her parent's were chosen when I was only 4 months pregnant. We were able to establish an AMAZING relationship with them during the course of the pregnancy. We met up a few times a month for dinner and outings. Luckly enough they live about 20 minutes away from us (we had no idea, found their adopting profile online through an agency!). The adoptive parents were at the delivery (a.mom was in the room watching) and my husband was holding my hand. It was an amazing experience for everyone.
Almost 7 months later, we still have the BEST relationship and are always in contact. A.Mom is one of my best friends now.
My question is this:
Are their any birth mom's out there who have this type of relationship with their child's adoptive parents?
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Answer by ChristianJMommy at 11:35 PM on Nov. 27, 2010
Wow. I hope this continues for you and blessings to you this holiday season. For my friends who have contact with their child's birth parents they do not have that best friend relationship. In two of them - both birth mothers want that best friend relationship and for the adoptive mother to provide the emotional support they need. Almost for the adoptive mom to "adopt" them as another child as well. In one case my friend had to really set clear boundaries that she can not be the birth mother's best friend or counselor. She never asked about the child - she just wanted the adoptive mother. It was very sad and also very hard. In the other the child is only a few months old and his birth mother is still in high school. She really is just a child herself. And the adoptive mom is a therapist. So you can see how boundaries can get blurred. But my friend was NEVER the therapist for this girl nor were any of the
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Answer by Babylove76 at 3:43 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
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