I'm 23, my husband is 25, we've been together 7 years, married 4. Neither of us had a relationship before each other. I fell in love with him because he was so sweet and so loving. We had such a strong connection.
Fastforward and he is not the same man. I love the man he is now. He's strong and confident and intelligent. But we are having a hard time communicating. He is no longer romantic... at all. Ever. And I really REALLY need it. And when he tries to express that intense love feeling I'm not picking up on it.
The result is me not feeling fulfilled. I'm happy enough, but I don't want to live my life feeling like there is something important missing. Life is too short! We talk about this stuff a lot because I want it to change, but now he's starting to feel like I can't be happy and I'm always looking for a problem. He's getting frustrated with it, and, too, he just doesn't have it in him to be the romantic man I fell in love with 7 years ago. So I'm always bringing it up and he feels like I'm accusing him and not happy with him :(
What can I do?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:53 PM on Nov. 26, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by LindaClement at 1:00 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 1:13 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Warning no hand holding here ! Congratulations - you are really married! You both are growing as individuals and as a couple. Do seek out counseling as an individual and as a couple at church, community center, or private practice most insurances cover at least a portion. You both will change over time and so will your relationship. Love and even like will ebb and flow in a relationship. No marriage stays the same, romance is nice, but it does not pay the bills, it does not hold your hand when your child is in the hospital. Only you can decide, maybe everyone was right and you were too young and immature to get married. Romance is easy Love is hard your confusing the two.
Answer by mrsljamieson at 1:20 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by 7blessings at 2:26 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by marine_wife0520 at 7:51 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by twinkletoes0408 at 12:59 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 1:16 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by 7blessings at 1:36 PM on Nov. 26, 2010