Let me give you a little background first. I have known my ex husband for a year. He was a good friend before dating. We dated for like 6 months. He was the first person I decided to date in over two years. I ended up getting pregnant. Our relationship was going so well and we wanted to get married later down the line. Although looking back I regret it VERY much.. we got married earlier than expected. After we got married it was a complete change from him. He started getting super controlling and degrading. I have a 2 year old son from a previous relationship and he started taking it upon himself to start spanking him. When I brought it to his attention on how I didn't appreciate him spanking my child, non the less he was leaving marks, he got mad at ME! One night my son obviously had a bad dream and woke up in a panic. He demanded me not to get up so I just watched him. He started yelling at him "knock it off" then decided to put his hand over my sons mouth which obviously didn't stop him from crying. I got up after that and my son jumped into my arms. I rocked him back and forth to calm him down. Another event was my son didn't go to bed right when he was put down and started to cry. He got him out of bed took him by one hand and spanked him. He probably went up 3 or 4 feet in the air. Instead of telling me how beautiful I am (what he once did) he was talking to me like a piece of dirt. There were many times I would leave the room speakless with my mouth open in shock. He never liked how I would go visit family. He would never come or back out at the last minute. He ended up going off on me one night because i went to have dinner with my mother. He said he wanted a divorce and to get my things out of the house. Now he is getting crazy on me because he thinks he has parental rights for my 2 year old son. I keep reminding him he doesn't have any rights over 2 year old son. When things don't go his way he gets crazy angry. How can someone just completely change? He is really starting to scare me. I will just cry if I have a boy because I don't want my ex to abuse him. He once told me if he had a daughter he wouldn't have the heart to spank her etc which is why I said I would cry if I had a boy. Its sad. I don't know what to do but day by day it gets worse with him. What would you do in my position?! Anything I can do to make sure he doesn't get visits without me around? I don't know I am just worried. Help!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:47 PM on Nov. 26, 2010 in Relationships
Mmm...my dad always said, "sometimes it takes a year or more to get to know someone."
For some time that person is just amazing, and later the tables turn- and the real person comes out.
Hon, I don't really have the answers. I think you need to get away from him...as soon as possible.
You definitely need to talk to someone (who has some good advice) and will have guidance for you.
GOOD LUCK & HUGS
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