Is it rude to come and spend the night at someones house and leave a mess??? Or should you at least offer to help clean up? Or is it the hosts resposibility???
Im not sure about what is customary.
My hubbys parents and their two younger kids (14 and 16) came wednesday night for Thanksgiving and left last night. DH and I gave up our bed for his parents to sleep in and I made beds for his brother and sister in the office, and we slept on the couch. I cooked the entire Thanksgiving dinner, cleaned, set up the table, watched my daughter(who got into everything) while everyone sat on their ass and watched the game. After all the guests left, they packed up and left too. They left a mess in every bathroom, the kids trashed the office. I asked them numerous time to pick up after themselves. MIL and I are not on the best of terms, for the actual dinner everyone dressed nice, she didnt even brush her hair, she wore jeans and an old t shirt, she didnt even put her dentures in, shes 41 and looks like shes 55. All our guests were astonished at her and DH and I were very emberassed by the fact that she acted better than everyone. Her husband couldnt even sit next to her. but thats a whole different story. anyways no one helped clean up and my hubby had to be up at 3am to go to work so he helped me put the food away and then we were both so tired that we went to bed at 7:30 pm last night. I had to clean the whole house this morning. Am I wrong for being upset?? They never even made the bed or picked up their towels off the floor.
They ignored me all day, ate all the food, insulted my parents and friends and trashe the freaking place. I am livid. I told my husband all this last night and he feels the same way and not sure whether he should say something or not. His parents always twist what you say and hold grudges for months. Should I just let it go or say something or just not invite them to the next gathering?
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