I've been EXTREMELY lucky and fortunate in my life to never have lost anyone that I was close to.
I've had 3 of my grandparents die, but for 2 I was really young, and my other Grandpa, I didn't know that well, but it was still hard.
It scares me so much, because I'm afraid when I eventually do lose someone, (like my parents), that I won't be able to deal with it, and I know it's inevitable that I WILL eventually lose someone. I am SO close to them, and the thought of one of them being gone literally almost takes my breath away. It hurts so much to even imagine it. I honestly fear that I'll go crazy one day when it happens because I don't know if I'm strong enough to handle something like that. It's just unimaginable. My mom says that I'll go on because of my children.
HOW do you EVER prepare yourself for something like that? It's always in the back of my mind, but I don't let myself think about it because it scares me so much. I've even contemplated going to therapy when they're older to try to prepare myself, but is it even possible to prepare for something such as that? :(
And lastly, am I weird for being so afraid of losing them? Does anyone else feel this way or have this fear?
Answer by older at 9:24 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:32 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
my mother died very suddenly of a massive heart attack. i was not prepared (she was only 46yo)...i was in college and my dad told me while i was at work. of course i was devastated, but i took a week off of work, planned the funeral, etc. and then had to go back and take my finals. imo there's not really any way to prepare for something like that....everyone dies sometime. it still hurts and i still miss her after 8 years of being gone. she never saw me graduate from college, never saw me get married, never saw any of her grandkids.... it's sad, but not the end of the world. i think losing a child would be much worse because you expect your parents to die at some point, but you hope (god willing) that your kids will outlive you. i guess my advice is just don't worry about it so much and enjoy them while they're still here!
Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:32 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
I used to feel the same way as you but I lost my father almost 3 years ago and I survived. It is hard and it hurts but you do get through it.
Answer by beeky at 9:37 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by kerp1960 at 9:39 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
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