My husband suddenly passed away this past summer. We have a 3 1/2 year old daughter.
When he died I got almost $230,000 ... right now we are living with my parents but I plan on buying a modular home and putting it on their land ( they have 75 acres) ... I plan on living on a budget and staying home with my daughter until she starts school in 2012 and then I am going to work at my aunt successful beauty salon ( I already have my lisence from before I had my daughter, and she already offered me a job for when i want it ) ... This is what my husband and i planned on doing all along too ( for me to work when she goes to school ) ... and I really think it is the best for her and I ...
This plan has made the last months a little better and the future not look as bad...
UNTIL... 2 months after he died a woman " came forward " and said that her and my husband has an affair and that her 3 month old baby was his and that he was also planning on leaving me for her... ( I actually know her because we live in a small town and she doesnt have the best reputation)
At first I didnt believe it because of a few reasons ( her reputation being one of them), plus the relationship that my husband and I had, it is just hard to believe that he did, especially since I cant see when he had time... The only time we werent together was when he was at work (and he would always answer the phone when i would call ) .... I havent seen the baby but some people that have seen it said it looks too dark to be my husbands ( he had blonde hair , blue eyes) and the baby looks a little too tan and has black hair and dark eyes ( so i am told ) ...
BUT the biggest thing is.... is that she said that her daughter deserves half of the money we got ...
My question is...if we did get a DNA test and it was his baby would you give her half ?
or would you even get the test done... can she legally get the test done and take half of the money ?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:20 PM on Nov. 26, 2010 in Parenting Debate
Answer by Simplicity3 at 11:22 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by twinkletoes0408 at 11:25 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by FluffyMamaBunny at 11:28 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by TARARENEE at 11:33 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
If you were listed as beneficiary for the money then it should be YOURS! It sounds very suspicious that she waits till now to 'come forward' about her child and that she says the baby deserves half the money. Why did she not come forward when she found out she was pregnant or when your husband was alive? (sounds like she wants $$). If I were you I would consult a lawyer about your legal rights. I would not talk to her, I would tell her that "she will be hearing from my lawyer" and maybe the thought of taking this to court might scare her enough to make her back off (especially if she is trying to con you). If it turns out the child is your late husbands and you have to give money I would set the money up in a trust that is untouchable until the child is 21-- that way the mom can't get her greedy hands on it and spend it.
Answer by MizLee at 11:34 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by mamagee1218 at 11:41 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by raynestar at 11:45 PM on Nov. 26, 2010
Answer by amessageofhope at 12:12 AM on Nov. 27, 2010
Answer by older at 9:26 AM on Nov. 27, 2010
Next question overall
would you rather have a C-section or all natural birth?