I helped a young mom when her DH was beating her with a baseball bat get out to a safe place. She stayed with me for a few days with her baby. She'd lost custody of her 3 yr old son for a yr because she felt she couldn't leave her DH when he shot her son in the face with a paintball gun at point blank range. She now realizes how horrible that choice was and is on her way to getting her son back in the spring of next year.
One reason she didn't leave him sooner was she had no childcare for her 3 mo old baby (now 4 mo). Since the day he hit her with the bat I have been babysitting for her free of charge - so that she wouldn't be tempted to go back to him for fear of losing her job. I encouraged her to pick up as many hours as she could for the holidays (she works at walmart) to earn extra money. She has and provides everything for the baby. I now have her for 3-4 days (and nights) straight with 1-2 days back with her mom. I know its a lot but it's JUST for the next 6 weeks or so. I DO NOT MIND HAVING THE BABY THIS MUCH!! She is a joy to have and I love her to pieces!! Even my DH enjoys taking her when he gets home from work and just holding her and playing with her and our kids.
We have grown very close with this mom (Tiffany) and her baby. We've been adopted as "Auntie B" and "Uncle D" and the baby's great grandparents have adopted us as grandkids. We spent an awesome Turkey day with them all and had a BLAST!
Tiffany's STBX-DH is in jail now thanks to me and her closest friend Will, a guy she works with. I saw their close friendship and set them up to show up to meet "a secret admirer" and they are now dating. She is free of the bondage her psycho STBX-DH had on her, happy, in love and financially set since she and Will are together. He is very comfortable money wise. It is no option to him. She will never have to worry about the X since Will is a retired cop with plenty of "tools" to take care of him. She will never have to worry about $ as all her needs/dreams are being met.
I am truly happy for her "fairy tale ending" and I am very much in love with my own DH, but we have to fight and struggle financially and have had to for the past 11 yrs of our lives together. We almost lost each other as we divorced in 2006 but we thankfully reconciled in 2009 and our love is very strong. I just have a little jealousy that we don't have a little breathing room financially.
How do I stop being jealous and just be happy for her? I couldn't bear to lose her and Will as friends. She has asked me to be godmother to her baby girl - and I am delighted.
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