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I have not found anything in the Bible that this is wrong...

My sister is dating our 2nd cousin,We were never close to that side of family so we never really knew him.They r both grown adults.They're getting serious and getting alott of heat from the family..

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Asked by karencrouch at 10:08 AM on Nov. 27, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Cousin, second cousin.. it's all blood related and it is a bit weird. But to each their own.. I guess you can't help who you love.

    Answer by Ctink8189 at 10:10 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • cue the banjo music.......

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 10:12 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • I think it's in Genesis where God said not to marry family anymore. there were enough people on the earth by then not to marry immediate family (since we're all family anyway through adam and eve) i'm not sure if second cousins count. does she have a pastor or minister? set up a meeting with them if they do.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:14 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • My husband once found out that he had dated his 5th cousin. He was really glad that he didn't do anything with her. As far as the Bible goes, you won't find anything in there because back then it was very common to marry a blood relative (ex. Cain married his sister). However, back then there wasn't any consequences such as birth defects. As time went on and the population grew, there was no longer a need to marry a close relative. As you said though, they are adults and if they choose to get married then there are 16 states that allow it. I would warn them to get a genetics test done before considering having kids though.


    Answer by JeremysMom at 10:16 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • LE 18:8-16 talks about laying with relatives.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:19 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • However, back then there wasn't any consequences such as birth defects

    Oh yes there was. In egypt It was very common for royalty to marry reletives because they believed you should keep the blood line going. they were not allowd to marry outside the family. BUT, many pharo's & family members were definitely deformed & had LOTS of health issues. They said it was a curse of the family, but it really was because they were all having babies with family. Scientists believe King Tut was the product of incest & that he was a malformed king that had horrible health issues which was why he died so young.

    It is weird, but if they love each other, then whatever. It's no one else's business.

    Answer by samurai_chica at 10:23 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • In every state, it is legal to marry your second cousin. In 26 states, it is legal to marry your first cousin. No European country prohibits marriage between first cousins. It is also legal throughout Canada and Mexico to marry your cousin. Albert Einstein married his first cousin, did Charles Darwin, who had exceptional children. And if you think about it, we are all related in some way.

    Answer by layh41407 at 10:27 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • The stigma that comes with marrying your first cousin has NOTHING to do with religion, it's purely cultural. In fact it wasn't so uncommon, even in very religious societies, for people to marry inside family lines. It was the belief that marrying or having children with your cousin would or did lead to birth defects, mental retardation and other misunderstood health issues which lead to the stigma. However, there is no medical science to back up those beliefs. Although genetics CAN break down through generations of inbreeding, simply having children with your cousin - be it first, second, third, whatever - or even closer relatives does NOT lead to genetic abnormalities or other health issues. So while society may still have that underlying revulsion, it's not actually based in reality. As for the religious angle, there is a history of intermarrying within Christian societies with blessings from the Church.

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 10:41 AM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • First cousin unions are legal in some countries but it is too close for my comfort.  However the blood line between second cousins is fairly diluted so I don't think it would matter much (genetically speaking).


    Answer by beeky at 12:26 PM on Nov. 27, 2010

  • cue the banjo music.......

    Why? The majority of states in which cousin marriage is legal are in the New England area, stretching from about Maine to Pennsylvania.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 5:11 PM on Nov. 27, 2010

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