Okay Ladies, I need to vent. My uncle recently got a divorced and moved from California to Indiana. (I live in IN) Well, I knew prior to his arrival that he was coming to IN & I thought he had a place to stay. Well, my grandfather is sick and he has a home he owns. Three other siblings live in the home and take care of my grandfather. When my uncle from CA arrived in IN, he asked his siblings could he stay with them. They in so many words told him no. So, me and my husband allowed him to stay with us. To give you some background. My uncle had a stroke 5 years that affected his left leg (he walks with a cane) and he has problems with his memory. Okay, my background, I am a person who likes items in their place, everything has a place and everything should be in that place. My uncle noticed this and said "I don't want to disrupt your household, but I like to clean, so just leave me alone." Okay, this is just one of the situations. My uncle has this smell, so everyday I spray glade where he sleeps. My uncle's personal items sit on a old tv that I have in our living room. I walked passed the tv & just put the air freshener on top of it. The next day my uncle asked me was that his spray or mine. I politely told him mine. So he takes it and put it in my kitchen on a table. Okay, so I spray my house the next day as usual and put it back on the tv. I leave and come back home and my spray is not on the tv. So when my uncle gets in I asked where was my spray, he said he put it in his car cause I had it with his items. I felt like my uncle did that on purpose. My husband is mad at me because he felt like I over reacted. He said I should of had more compassion because of his stroke. Ladies, do you think I overacted? Like I said, this is just one situation. My husband works 2 jobs, so he's never home and he doesn't know other things taking place in the house.
Answer by mommy_bink at 12:51 PM on Nov. 27, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:36 PM on Nov. 27, 2010
Why would you leave it where he is keeping his things? That's a little intrusive don't you think? I can see where that would be strange for him - especially if he has memory issues for a stoke. Next time just leave the glade somewhere else so as not to mix it in with his stuff. The space you have given him to keep his things is the only space he "owns" right now. I am sure this is hard for him too. But if you can't get past this then it's time for him to move on!!
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