My marriage is at a stand still. 9 years and he's wanting out, but we're doing the waiting game b/c of the holidays. All signs and voices of others he's talked to says he really wants out and I should walk away. Logic says to walk away. My heart screams to not give up, as broken as it is. I'm more spiritual than religious, but someone I talked to said that "God" speaks to you through your heart, to listen to your heart and not logic and what others say...or what my husband says. He goes on walks A LOT...so it might be him rethinking everything, but I just need to know...what to trust....heart, mind, logic...what he's told others??? I may SOUND like I'm at bargaining with the stages of grief, but I feel...in my heart, I'm still hoping my marriage will get saved. Please be honest.
ETA: If he was going to divorce me or cheat on me...he would've done it by now...so just waiting till the papers are signed. Not over till the "Fat lady sings" so to speak.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:00 AM on Nov. 28, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs
Listen to both, if your not ready to end things, then let him make the first move. If he wants out you can't make him stay anyway. I think you should spend sometime focusing on yourself too, because if everything revolves around what he wants that can feel suffocating to him. Good luck, I hope it works out the way you want.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 12:14 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
You need to listen to both but in your case it would seem the question is moot. If your dh wants out, there is nothing you can do to stop him.
Answer by beeky at 8:12 AM on Nov. 28, 2010
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Answer by Amaranth361 at 1:53 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Have you read the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman? Go to that website, click on "assesments" and you take the quiz for wives, and have DH take the quiz for husbands. Take the test without the other watching or intervening. Write down both of your primary and secondary love languages, strive to speak in the other persons love language, and buy the book. I hope it makes a positive impact on your relationship!
Answer by flatlanderjenn at 8:35 PM on Nov. 28, 2010