My 14 year old son has suddenly become obsessed with a girl. I'm not fond of her because I intercepted some text messages about a year ago that were sexual in nature (they were not "dating" at the time). Now they are "going out" and he wants to invite her over, which I have allowed only for an hour or two and only when I am home. When she isn't here, he texts or talks to her constantly on his cell phone. I've tried to limit his contact with her but he just seems to spend every waking hour thinking about her. And I can't control what he does while at school and during his lunch hour. We live in a small town and she only lives a few blocks away. I never worried about leaving him home alone before and now I don't feel like I can do that for fear he will have her come over.
Help! Any suggestions on what to do?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on Nov. 28, 2010 in Teens (13-17)
Answer by older at 11:08 AM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by tootoobusy at 11:08 AM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by 1LovelyAngel at 11:14 AM on Nov. 28, 2010
Make sure you stay open with him. Also remember it's natural for him and her to have these feelings. I can understand your fear and if you sit down with him and lay down some rules and tell him whyyou have these rules. Tell him you don't want them having sex for the fear of her getting pregnant. That might not be your concern but what ever your concern is tell him. If he abides by these rules maybe she can come over for half hour more. Reward him for following your direction. It's hard for kids to control themselves with all these emotions so if he obeys you then tell him he's doing a great job. Don't forget to let him know the consequences of not following your rules. Always remember you know whats best for your son he doesn't he's just going on feelings alone.
Answer by Jenaiko01 at 11:15 AM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by AngryBob at 11:16 AM on Nov. 28, 2010
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Answer by rosetoes at 7:37 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by JLS2388 at 8:28 PM on Nov. 28, 2010