My husband and I have been married for 13 years. He has been a wonderful father and husband -almost perfect. Recently I found porn on his phone for the 5th time. I understand this is a natural activity for most men and I am upset because of self esteem issues I have because of childhood trauma. I have always been pretty modest, but after the 3rd time I decided if I was going to have a problem with it then I would have to do what it takes to make sure my husband didn't feel like he was forced to miss out. So I jumped out of my box and made myself become more sexually available. Plus I'm not too bad looking and work hard on my figure so that I don't feel like he has an excuse. Each time I told him exactly how it affected me and each time he told me although he disagreed with my perspective he would respect me and wouldn't do it again so as not to hurt me. I trusted that and repaid him by trying to replace any porn with pic of me. Well like I said this is the 5th time and now he is telling me he wants to have sex with other women and has even given names. He insists he will never act upon these thoughts and there is a difference between wanting and cheating and I truly believe him. Ijust would have never thought he would want to say that to me," that girls hot is hot" is alot different than saying "I want to f__ her". He is telling me I am crazy for acting so hurt and that this is my problem that I will ruin our relationship if I dont change. Somebody please set me straight.........Answer Question
Answer by amybaby_19 at 6:01 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by Zakysmommy at 6:02 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Your are set perfectly straight how you feel is perfectly normal your husband is the one with the problem. Please dont settle for anything less. I would really tell him to leave and if he wants to have sex with other women so be it but you will be no part of it. It wont only take an emotional toll on you but he can contract so many std's seriously which isn't healthy for you or your children. It seems like he made his mind up I would really rethink your relationship with him. The porn part of it can maybe be fixed but if he's now talking about having sex with other women he's on his way to cheating and you are so much better then that. You are totally in the right!!
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