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So I see all these posts offering to help single moms for christmas. Well, I happen to know a very unfortunate single DAD.
I do understand this is a MOM website, but please if you're interested... please continue reading.
He's working multiple jobs, but can't afford an attorney to take his ex to court to fight for custody and get a FAIR amount of child support started. She's demanding over 400 a month and half daycare costs covered. By his state requirements (taking into consideration his income), he should only be paying her 180 a month. So needless to say, he's broke. He can't afford 1,500 to hire an attorney, and really needs help this holiday season.
And yes, he has contacted Legal Aid. But unfortunately there's a 5 month wait for their help. And yes, he's contacted Toys for Tots. No one has gotten back with him yet.
It makes me nervous. I don't want to imagine his son cold in the winter, or lacking appropriate winter clothing. I don't want anything to not be under the tree. But when you only make about 18k a year, what more can you expect?
And yes, he only has about half of the time. But he doesn't allow anything from his house to go back to hers, and vice versa.
I have sent him money when he needs it, but I really can't afford to do much more right now. My DH's re-enlistment bonus got screwed up, so we thought we we're going to be getting 14k in October, but FINALLY got about 2k as they forwarded the rest (accidentally) to his retirement fund. So there goes a majority of our help to him. Blah. (Yes, we're trying to sort out the kinks but as of right now we'll be getting it every October until someone who knows what they're doing can REALLY help us get it fixed)
Anyway, so... help would be tremendously appreciated. This guy friend (he's been my best friend since I was 16) is really trying. Used toys, clothing, etc... Anything age appropriate would be fantastic.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:48 PM on Nov. 28, 2010 in Holidays
You should take this to Wish Upon A Hero - http://www.wishuponahero.com
Answer by dedicatedrider at 8:56 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Link was wrong, sorry, here: http://www.wishuponahero.com
Answer by dedicatedrider at 8:58 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by Kathy675 at 9:00 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by 82ndairbornewif at 9:01 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by Ctink8189 at 9:01 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by Korysmom96 at 9:23 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Have him go to St. Vincent de Paul stores or Goodwill. There are lots of churches that are able and willing to help out this time of year. Also, if you could give an address, I'm sure that lots of people would be willing to send things for his kid. You're a wonderful friend thinking about him this time of year.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 9:30 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by trashymom at 11:00 PM on Nov. 28, 2010
Answer by scout_mom at 10:41 AM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by Sandyr911 at 10:50 AM on Dec. 3, 2010