I go to school and my husband was completely supportive of me going back to school when I said I wanted to back in January. Now he's saying he wants to go back to school. I'm lying and saying I'm fine with it when inside I think it's a terrible idea. We're already taking out financial aid to survive with me going and not working, not that I could work even if I wasn't a student with the cost of daycare for two kids, but that aside. He doesn't help around the house all that much and we're struggling to stay ontop of the house enough to keep the state out of lives and our kids in our home. He's did some community collge awhile back and dropped out of that. He did some training at a specail vocation school and has NEVER used it or even really tried. He never finishes the things he starts and we're already not getting by. Is it selfish of me to think he shouldn't go back to school?
Or if he's really determined I think maybe he should like join the military reserves or something so that at least someone else gets to bear the cost. But I'm scared to bring this up becuase we'fe loosely talked about the idea of him doing the military since we are so not getting by and you know better insurance and we actually do need good insurance with me being the way I am, but he just gets really upset and says that since I have mental health concerns it's never going to happen becuase he'd have to leave for a few months for bootcamp and then what if he got sent away and so forth. And that he doesn't want to loose the weight and get into shape like he'd need to.
I just don't know what to do or suggest to him about this. I am I int he wrong here?
I told him I'm okay with it and I'm behind him and I'm just kinda doing the grin and bear it 'cause I feel like I'm beign wrong and selfish here, but am I really. What do other think?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:27 PM on Nov. 28, 2010 in Relationships
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