One technique I use goes like this................
I take my son, sit him down at the table and I ask him what his most favorite things to do are. Then I write each one down on a large piece of paper until I get to about a list of 10. Then, I post it on the wall in his play room. When I feel he is misbehaving, I say "That's one". If he misbehaves a second time, I say (that's two). If he misbehaves a third time, we walk over to our list and I ask him which of the items on the list he chooses to cross off, then he loses that particular activity/toy/event. We start over every Monday so, if he loses something that day, he has to wait a week to gain it back. It works very well without yelling, spanking or frustration.
Additionally, If he is at "one" for example and then does something really good like clean-up without me asking him or help his sister, I will essentially give him a point and tell him he's back to zero.
at 2:59 PM on Nov. 5, 2008