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My daughter is 25 months and she can't hold a spoon or even a crayon correctly is something developmentally wrong with her?

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Asked by Frisi at 11:21 AM on Nov. 29, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • What does her doctor say?

    Answer by ballewal at 11:21 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • Yes, I think you should be concerned. You should talk to your pediatrician and get a recommendation for a good pediatric physical therapy center. Then give them a call and ask if you could have her checked out. Most ped. therapists will first do a free screening that will help tell you if she is having any developmental delays and what need to be done further. These pediatric therapists can be excellent and really helpful in getting things back on track. And early intervention is really the key, in my opinion. Good luck!

    Answer by spottedpony at 11:24 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • you say "correctly" so does that mean she can do it just not in the traditional way yet (scooping up her food and putting it in her mouth and holding the crayon between the forefinger and thumb down toward the bottom of the crayon) ? as long as she is holding them and does color and does *try* to feed herself she is ok. my 23 month old is still learning how to properly use a spoon and fork. right now she points the mouth of the spoon toward her with the handle facing downward, so all the food slides off and onto her shirt. but she knows the spoon is for eating. she doesn't hold a crayon right either but she's able to scribble the way she holds it. as long as your daughter is doing those things, she is developmentally on track. they don't really learn the knack of spoons and forks til they're about 3, same with holding crayons right.

    Answer by tnm786 at 11:25 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • Contact your local Early Intervention provider & have her evaluated professionally (they typically do this for free). If your child needs services, EI will generally provide them in your home for free until your child turns 3. At age 3, EI will help you transition your child to the public school district, where services will continue, also for free.

    You should also discuss your concerns with your child's doctor.

    Answer by mom2aspclboy at 11:25 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • It's more that she uses both hand she starts off using her right hand then switches to her left then she just starts to use her fingers. Everything else is on track with her.

    Comment by Frisi (original poster) at 11:40 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • That actually sounds pretty normal for that age, they do use both hands at that age, and you should see a lot of symmetry in her movements. However, it never hurts to have the free screening just to put your mind at peace!

    Answer by spottedpony at 11:48 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • Sounds "normal" to me-but every child is on their OWN timeline! If she is "on track" with everything else, you have no other concerns , and you have discussed this with your pediatrician and they think everything is fine-then relax. If you can't relax and are still concerned, try working with her on holding her fork/spoon. Sounds to me like she is trying out which hand is "easier" and she says to heck with the whole thing and uses her fingers because that is easiest.

    Answer by Alynn74 at 11:52 AM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • wow sounds exactly like my daughter. she uses both hands and then when she doesn;t wnt to use a fork or spoon she uses her hands. oh how she loves to use her hands and fingers. sometimes she even puts the fork or spoon upside down and eats it on the other side. she is 20months. they do all sorts of funky things. i love to watch her wackiness. lol

    Answer by lambdarose at 12:49 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • She sounds normal. Some children have a stronger hand preference than others. My grandson can eat with a fork with either hand but doesn't do well with a spoon with either. He doesn't have any interest in coloring. He throws with both hands. He used to do best with his left but now is doing about the same with both.

    Answer by Gailll at 4:03 AM on Nov. 30, 2010

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