Who's the Boss? Sorry, Kids. It Isn't You. .
Excerpts from article by Jeff D. Opdyke (WSJ online)
Many kids these days see themselves as fully empowered members of the family, with opinions that carry just as much weight as their parents' opinions do.
That's not always bad. But we parents today have gone overboard. We have inadvertently created kids who think they have the power to dictate what happens in the family -- from where we go to eat to where we vacation to the kinds of braces we each deserve.
It's time, I would argue, to take back control.
Most parents my age -- I'll be 45 in January -- grew up in a time when our choices were limited to one: Whatever Mom and Dad said you were doing, you did.
If my grandparents, who raised me in South Louisiana, said that we were going to visit my uncle in Mississippi over the weekend, I had no other option but to go to Mississippi, no matter how much I didn't want to. If they said Friday night dinner was at the Piccadilly restaurant, I couldn't counter with some other restaurant I might want to eat at instead. It wouldn't have dawned on me to even try.
But that's not how it always goes today.
Moms and dads today often play the role of friend instead of parent. Many of us, no doubt, want to avoid giving our kids the sense of powerlessness, and the distance, we might have felt with our own parents. But in doing so, we've inadvertently given our kids a sense of power that we may one day come to rue.
Link to full article:
Answer by Mama2Becks at 2:40 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by missanc at 2:45 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by louise2 at 2:46 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 2:46 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by Jademom07 at 2:50 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by riotgrrl at 2:50 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by LindaClement at 3:15 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by Freela at 4:18 PM on Nov. 29, 2010
Answer by Mom2Just1 at 4:57 PM on Nov. 29, 2010