Well, long story short, I met my husband when I was 15 years old. We didn't get married then, but we did have a child when I was 17. So, after the first time he threw me to the ground, I forgave him. I left him for a few weeks, forgave him and moved in with him. Of course, he sold me that "I love you and I'll never hurt you again bid". And I fell for it. Well, I got fed up with him being in the streets and amongst other things, so I wanted out. This time, my son he was about 7-8 months old. As I was packing my things, he walks in the shack of a home he moved us into and asks me where I'm going. I tell him I'm going to a friend's house (I was lying) and he knew it. So, he kept asking and I kept looking away and lying. I tell him to move and he grabs me. I try to run to the phone to call for help and he takes the phone of the jack, moves the sofa against the back door so I can't leave. I fight to get away and of course he is 6'3 and I'm 5'7 so I'm losing, he throws me on the couch and has me y the neck and with his knees in my chest... I'm slowly losing consciousness watching my eight-month old in his high chair eating. He knows nothing of what's going on..... but the point of it all, ten years later, we're married. He goes to church, he doesn't do what he use to, up until November 14th, we argue over a weird number in his phone. At the end of this number was a female's voice. So I confront him, get mad and ask him to leave. I start throwing his things out the house because I'm mad and he gets in my face and tells me if I throw another on of his things out the door, he was going to do something, I slapped him out of rage that he would say that--- and then there we go, he tosses me over the love seat in our living room and hits me in the head.
I'm at loss for words.... he's in jail. Is asking me to stick by him, but I don't know what to do. I am in school, I couldn't focus on it. I have a good job that I couldn't go to because I was bruised up and sore for a whole week. And he's asking me to help him get through this because I am his wife. I just don't know. I know that a part of me is dumb for taking him back after the first few incidents that happened YEARS ago, but I guess people don't change. He wants to get counseling, but I feel that it's too late for all of that. What should I do? What would you do?
you have to consider the children and what they see...I think it is time you protect them from the cycle that you yourself has admitted to be going through...regardless the time span between incidents it will get worse...I would not stand up for him I would stand up for you and your children now...if not now they will have to watch as their entire life crumbles because of a man who cannot control his behaviour...yes you slapped him but throwing you about and hitting or punching is way more than a slap in the face at this point...walk away while you have the legs to do it!
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