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fatasizing about someone other than your spouse

my sister put her boyfriend out cause she over heard him saying that he has been fantasizing about someone other than her lately..but he wasnt doing it on purpose..while sleeping but he remembers them..she told him he's cheating..i disagree u cant help fatantsies cause thats what they are..
it could be stress thats causing my opinion? just tryihng to help a brother out..he has never cheated on her that anybody has heard of..
do u consider fantasizing as cheating.

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Asked by FreeSpriT4eva at 7:26 PM on Nov. 29, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I think it is a form of emotional cheating....

    Answer by older at 7:28 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • No it is not cheating but the man should be a lot smarter than to let his women overhear that.

    Answer by bjane01 at 7:31 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • Fanasizing while sleeping is dreaming- which you cannot control! Fantasizing during sex is another matter. However, I'm sure if we are honest, most people men & women, have thought about someone other than our partner during that time. (usually a celebrity) I think she's overreacting a bit & needs to think about why she would throw him out for just this reason. There's usually more to it. I hope they will get some counseling to fix things. Good luck to you & your family.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:33 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • It can lead to cheating and if not corrected most likey will lead to him cheating if he has a desire for someone else. You need to support your sister on this one, it probably hurt her alot. The fact she over heard him talking about someone else isn't cool.

    Answer by Jenaiko01 at 7:33 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • it could be an affair of the heart. but i've never done it except in a dream and I tell my husband everything.

    Answer by TawnyMarlow at 7:36 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • I think there's a difference between fantasizing about a celebrity and fantasizing about your neighbor or friend. An affair is more likely to result from fantasizing about someone you know than a celeb. I think if someone's fantasizing about people they know, it's a form or emotional cheating, but that's something only he can stop. Luckily, there's no one else actually involved.

    Answer by musicpisces at 7:43 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • If he's dreaming, there's no way he can control it! And honestly, I don't think it's cheating.

    Answer by Eviesmommy at 8:11 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

  • no, fantasizing ISNT cheating...if it was, we'd almost all be guilty. as long as he doesnt take steps to act on it then she doesnt have anything to worry about....fantasizing alone is certainly nothing to break up over!

    Answer by LoriaAnn at 10:30 PM on Nov. 29, 2010

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