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Ok I know this isn't exactly a question, but I want everybody's opinion on what they think should be done or whatever ya'll think on this matter. Anyway, I was watching the news tonight and I heard about a 8 yr old little girl in 3rd grade in a small town school was being threatened, beat up and her hair was being pulled for many weeks. Then on the beginning of this month, the 8 yr old told her mom that a boy told her explicit details of sex. Well the mom found this quite disturbing that that the boy knew so much and went to the school and told the principal what was going on. Even after mom went and told the school, nothing was done, nothing has changed. Later, the girl goes to her mom asking questions about the other sexual acts this boy had told her. Again, she went to the school and raised concerns. Then last monday the little girl called home and asked to be picked up from school. Mom said she was crying and then told her what that same boy told her he planned to force her to have sex with him. Mom notified school leaders, and they told her that she could put her daughter in another class, but this boy would not be removed or disciplined because he is disabled. Doesn't that beat all. If a 'normal' boy child told this to a girl the same things that the other boy said, he would probably be yanked out of that school so fast his head woud spin. Or get a older kid say early teens or something and he does this, more then likely that boy could be addressed by a law enforcement official, and be expelled. Mom had said this isn't fair to her daughter, and she fears this boy is a danger. How does anyone know if this boy isn't going to hurt that girl? What would you all do in this case? Does anyone think that schools integrating all special needs students is the right thing for schools to do? Do you think that just because the boy is disabled, he doesn't need to 'own up' to his bad behavior and get disciplined? Or just a slap on the hand and tell him its 'not nice and never do it again.' What would the school do if that boy decided to follow thru on his threats? Well I know I would be talking to a lawyer, and by the time I am done with them, the school would be shut down due to the lack of funds. Cause they would do better to settle out of court. What would anyone here do in this sitution?
Answer by May-20 at 7:56 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by suelo74 at 3:06 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by missanc at 9:22 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by SuperChicken at 11:50 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by Zoeyis at 5:38 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 7:09 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
I'm not sure what his special needs are, some people with Tourettes will say things they're unable to control, but a third grader shouldn't understand explicit sex acts. I don't feel the school is handling this appropriately at all, there needs to be some consequencesor children can't learn to modify their behavior. Also if a third grader is making graphic sexual statements a social worker or school psychologist should speak to the child to find out what is going on. I think the school is afraid to bring this up to his parents, so they are washing their hands of it.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:23 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by Carpy at 8:41 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by Raine2001 at 8:44 AM on Nov. 30, 2010
Answer by Raine2001 at 8:50 AM on Nov. 30, 2010