Hubby and I found out a few weeks ago that his father and step-mom are doing pretty bad financially. They lost their business a few years ago, his step-mom lost her job she had a few months ago and his dad got into a serious auto accident that made him unable to work. They lost their house and business and are now about to file bankruptcy soon. They finally got unemployment back payment for the last 12 weeks (only $115. a week) and it's only enough to help them for the next 2 months. Hubby and I have offered help to them, whatever they need, money for Rx's, etc...
Recently my sister-in-law came into about $40-$50 thousand dollars and have splurged on a new boat, camper, computer, etc... (she's been waiting for her big break to move for a while, so she claims). Since the money, she has completely isolated herself from EVERYONE in the family, so no one has their hands out asking for $. (understandable to a certain extent). The position we're in right now is pretty much the same as my FIL, but we're willing to help them and give them what we can, and us go without. I mean, come on, they are his parents.
Yesterday we met with them for a few hours and talked and visited. We got on the subject of my SIL and how no one has heard from her (she used to call and text everyone almost daily!!). We decided to go on and tell FIL about the money she came into and how she's being completely selfish and not even wanting to help her FATHER who can't pay for his medicine. FIL is VERY hurt about this and finally is seeing how she is. A few years ago they were willing to sign for a house and piece of property for her and they told her she could pay them back whenever she was able to. (she decided not to do that though).
FIL has bent over backwards to help us at times, and we're repaying him by doing the same thing. Were we wrong to tell him what kind of financial position my SIL is in? He's very hurt, but at the same time we felt he should know that she was pretty much leaving him under the bus to fend for himself, when in pervious years he's tried to help her with so much!
Should we have not said anything? What should we have done?
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