My husband cheated last year and if any of you know what that's like, you get the "truth" out of them in trickles. Throughout the entire time after it was supposedly over...08/14/09 I kept asking him if he was still in contact with her and he said no...I kept asking him in September...he said no...in October...he said no...and so on and so on and so on. Finally last night I pressed him and he admitted to me that he had talked to her in October. When I asked him why he said "because we felt like it". I asked him what made him stop talking to her and he said "because I didn't want to deal with the public phone hassle anymore"...not because I didn't want to hurt you or something like that but a public phone. I was hurt all over again and he said but I've been good and I said but you lied to me over and over again and the reason you stopped dealing with her was not because I was hurt but because you were being inconvenienced. They even worked out a system for him to call her. I said why didn't you call her from your phone and he said, because you would check it and see that we talked. I asked him if it crossed his mind that I would be hurt if I found out and he said but you weren't going to find out besides it's long over...get over it. He again said "look, I've been good forget last year...let's say for arguments sake that I was with her till the end of December, 2009...I didn't choose her, I chose you and now your just being INSANELY OBSESSED."
He keeps calling me obsessed because I'm still hurt that he didn't think of me once or the 20 years we've been together or how much I loved him or even after I pointed out to him that he could give me a disease by having unprotected sex with that nasty cum dumpster he didn't care and I'm obsessed???
I can't get over the hurt. I can barely breath right now and all I want to do is cry.
Am I being obsessed? How long does it take to get over something like this? Please help!
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