I picked our son who just turned 3 in Nov. up from Daycare last night and apparently he was out of character because I had last week off and had him home with me so he hadn't been there in 10 days, well anyway, he would normally be more emotional but he was more aggressive and angry and was talking back and got a time out etc. So I talked to him about this on the way home about it not being acceptable and he apologized and then we got home and told his dad about this ( who tends to try to talk to him like he's 10 instead of 3 ) so He does get angry and wasn't listening so he got in trouble for that, anyway, My question is,. if he got talked to and disciplined at Daycare, then got talked to about by me on the way home, it is excessive to have my husband talk to him about this also or is this how it works? We battle in the discipline area because we have different views anyway, but I don't know how to get him or us on the same page without telling him as being his father, he should know what his behavior was like, but he talks to him like he's an adult and gets mad that he won't sit and answer guestions he's incapable of understanding at his age and when I talk to him about it, he gets offended like I don't let him parent or something.. I guess this is a 2 part question... is it ok for ALL of us to discipline / talk to him about his behavior and how do you get your spouse to simplify his talks??? or at least get on the same page? He mentioned spanking last night for bad behavior which I am totally not for but he said he will be a spoiled kid if we don't... ugh...
Answer by justnancyb at 11:44 AM on Dec. 1, 2010
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Answer by KFree907 at 11:10 AM on Dec. 1, 2010
I think one consequence is appropriate for one misbehavior, but if the same misbehavior is repeated it's a new incident and deserves another consequence. On a bad day it can feel kind of harsh, but it usually means there are less bad days when we consistently stick to that plan. I think if the behavior was addressed at daycare then you don't need to bring it up again; he already got a consequence and knows what he was doing wasn't right.
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 11:15 AM on Dec. 1, 2010
Answer by LindaClement at 11:27 AM on Dec. 1, 2010