Ok, I'm a regular on here and I don't usually air my laundry, but I really need some sort of advice or something.
I'm kind of upset right now. My husband has works a lot. I mean, sometimes he'll be gone for 15 hours a day. He recently got promoted and has taken on a huge responsibility, and is basically cleaning up the mess of the person he took over for. Things should get better soon, but for the last couple of months, it feels like he's never home. Even on his days off, he constantly has to answer the phone, send e-mails, etc. I'm always on edge, thinking that our plans for the day will be ruined because of his work. He hates being gone too, but it's just what he has to do right now, he says. And I feel so bad for him because he has so much responsibility and is so stressed right now.
I just feel like we're losing our closeness. Do I just try to deal with it, or what? What can I do? Tell him to change careers? Work for someone else? The plus is that he's making even more money, but we doing just fine before his raise. He did not even see our son yesterday! He left before he got up, and got home after he went to bed.
We love each other, no doubt, but how do we adapt to this?
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Answer by worriedmommy600 at 9:47 PM on Dec. 1, 2010
My husband has an odd work schedule. He works 12 hours a day for 7 days straight and then has 7 days off. He also takes classes, so by the time his off week is here, he is extremely tired and will sleep all day after he gets home from class and then stays up all night. On his work week, we get to see him for about 30-45 minutes a day and on his off week, about 1-1 1/2 hours a day. Anyways, I know what you are going through. I find that it is best to "steal" any seconds, minutes, etc that you can. For example, tonight instead of packing his lunch to take with him, I told him I would bring it to him. We got to see him for about 2 minutes and he was able to get about a 3-4 minute break. It's only 2 minutes but those 2 minutes counted. Also, because we don't get to talk much, I find myself either forgetting to tell him something or bombarding him with loads of information when he first gets home. Cont...
Answer by JeremysMom at 9:49 PM on Dec. 1, 2010
Cont.. I found that it works best if I jot down things I need to tell him and then prioritize them as to their importance level. That way, I tell him what he needs to know without overloading him when he gets home. Good luck!
Answer by JeremysMom at 9:50 PM on Dec. 1, 2010
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