I mean, we all know those moms who had nothing but a baby that cried when they were hungry or tired but never had a fit, only had to be told once at a store to behave and they learned from it and a child who had independent play skills and talked "normal" by age 3 without whining.. well when those moms like me come on to ask advice about sleep issues or night waking or store tantrums or throwing fits or discipline, do you really think we haven't tried time outs or consistent discipline?? I mean my son has been hard since being in the womb and he never missed a phase or a fit that he can have. I have read too many books to count from strong willed, Happiest baby and toddler / brain development, growth spurt -discipline books, I could go on, but I just have a "hard child" so when a mom posts " I don't know what to do, I have tried everything" do you think its ok just to support her and not bash the crap out of her?? and I get maybe the poster might not have tried some things but.. to say "well, clearly you aren't being consistent or you are spoiling them.. did any of you think that we could really just have HARD KIDS?? sorry, this is more a vent but it is really frustrating some times raising strong willed / spirited kids and sometimes its hard to get bashed on because it is NOT always the parenting.. I am so tired of hearing that.. ugh.. sorry - bad day maybe... :(
Asked by Anonymous at 2:41 PM on Dec. 2, 2010 in General Parenting
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Answer by SuperrMommyy at 2:44 PM on Dec. 2, 2010
I have a really difficult 7 year old and a really easy 16 month old. I understand what your saying completely and I get bashed all the time, (from family) about how I parent my older son. Every child is different and so every situation has to be handled different. I really wish they would leave me alone because they do not understand.
Answer by bjojola at 2:45 PM on Dec. 2, 2010
My son is one and he was never ever ever ever easy at all. I dont remember a time when he was a baby when he wasn't crying and now he throws many tantrums but I'm one of those mommies that have said consistent discipline works because I use it on my son. If a mommy wants support ask for support but if she wants advice and asks a question then people are going to answer you. I dont think bashing someone on parenting is right because as I said to other moms everybody disciplines and trains children differently and what works for you might not work for another mommy. If I had answered a question that you posted and gave you advice you didnt' agree with then I'm sorry I just try to give input when wanted. I understand it's hard I'm a single mother who has has to do it all myself and even I self doubt sometimes.
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