Keep in mind that they need each other as well as you, and spare yourself the indignity of trying to find somewhere for the other three to cease to exist while you engage with one.
People need attention, but it doesn't take half an hour --or require the absence of other people-- to accomplish. It's a matter of focus and intention as much as it is attention to the actual, real person in front of you.
We often build up a kind of cardboard cut-out of the people we know, pinning simplistic labels on them and then being frustrated or bewildered when all the things we believe naturally go along with whatever we've labelled them turns out to be inaccurate, or has changed.
I'd recommend The Five Love Languages of Children... or Nurture By Nature... because they both talk about how knowing a child makes all the difference --so you can meet their needs for attention the way they feel it working.
Eye contact helps a lot. Smiling, too
at 8:00 PM on Dec. 2, 2010