I have a 7 year old boy named Richard (Allen) and 5 year old girl named Summer. They took my kids from me almost 6 years ago. I did everything that they told me to do. I went to there dr. appt when they told me about them, I tried to get a job but nobody would hire me being 6 months pregnant. I went to every court date. They tried to give both grandmas they kids but when they did the home inspection the both fail. The fathers mother came to court and told the judge that she was not choosing her grandkids over her son. I paid my child support every month. Then they finally adopted them out and it is a open adoption. I have not talk to my kids in 3 years and have not seen them in 4 years. She dont send pictures, she dont answer my letters that I send. But I send things for there birthdays, Christmas, and every other hoilday. I send pictures of my youngest son to them. And it upset me everyday. Can somebody help me on how to deal with this.Answer Question
Answer by samurai_chica at 10:55 AM on Dec. 3, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on Dec. 3, 2010
They did do an investigation. It is VERY hard to terminate parental rights. I'm not saying you were a bad mother, I am just stating the fact that it is very difficult to remove a child from the home. Social services did not decide that they should not be with you. A family court judge did based on the information presented to him or her during multiple hearings. A family court judge or law enforcement saw fit to remove a child from what appeared to be a dangerous situation. Not a social worker. While the social worker may assist in investigating abuse and neglect cases, they are not the ones to come in and yank a child out of a home. I'm sorry you are hurting but I know a ton of women who have had children removed and many of them think there was no reason why. But I often know there was a reason why. You can seek counseling and support.
Answer by frogdawg at 3:52 PM on Dec. 3, 2010
Regardless of why SS removed the kids, and regardless of the reason for the adoption, you are a grieving mother. It's perfectly normal to ache when you don't have your children in your arms and the time of year is especially hard on you, no doubt. I'm sorry that they haven't continued to send pics and updates, but what I would suggest to you is to copy every letter, card, and take pics of all gifts that YOU send, so that when your children come back to find you, that they will see what you sent, regardless of whether they got those things, or whether they were hidden or trashed. Another thing that I might suggest is journaling your thoughts and feelings towards your children as a way to decompress and acknowledge your pain and loss. Also, there is a birth mom's group on here that is for moms who didn't or aren't raising their children. Some were voluntary & some were not. No judgments.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 4:11 PM on Dec. 3, 2010
http://www.cafemom.com/group/4974 This is the Birth mom's group. Take care.
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