My parents were married for 22 yrs, divorced when I was 19. My dad remarried a year post divorce. His wife tried to move into our lives like the new mommy. When we were basically like, I have a mom thank you, she got pissy. We had no problem being civil, but that wasn't good enough, so she was very aloof to us for the next 20 yrs. Making holidays a pain etc. Last July while she was inside eating a sandwich, my dad had a cardiac "event" in the pool and drown. A year after being so devestated, she informed me and my sibs, that he left us each 10K. BUT, she technically didn't have to give us anything. So she wrote the 3 of us a personal check for 7K, saving herself 9K. I guess the will is a "trust" and her lawyer told her she could get away with this. My sister has washed her hands of the situation...but my younger brother is LIVID to say the least.
I asked her for a barometer my dad had on his desk at the office...she told me no, because she was with him when he bought it and it was memories of a nice day for the two of them. I know my dad would not be happy with how she has treated us since his death. We sat BEHIND her 2 kids at his funeral, like second class citizens. I am so disgusted, I can't even talk to her. I want to write her a letter telling her exactally how I have felt these past 20 yrs. Should I? Or should I just let this go? It won't bring my dad back anyway....
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Answer by mjperez at 11:09 AM on Dec. 3, 2010
It sounds like she's getting her revenge for you all not excepting her in the family. She may not have wanted to be your mom, just wanted to be close to her husbands children. I know you excepted her to a point, but it made her feel limited and alienated from all of you. I do find making his first children (you and siblings) sitting behind his step children appalling and I would be facing her with that. Also, I don't know how she can change his will, I would be checking into that also. Sorry about your loss hon, she is being childish now. Maybe it's grief or maybe she is just a bitch.........IDK.
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