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what do i do? no bashing please

if my SO doesnt want to get married but i do? and throwing the relationship away is not an options.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:33 PM on Dec. 3, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (21)
  • Wait. Your relationship will grow with time, and eventually he will be ready! ;)
    khf22

    Answer by khf22 at 2:34 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • Ahuh wait if it is worth it
    Raindew

    Answer by Raindew at 2:35 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • How long together?
    And may I ask your ages?
    MrsDAP

    Answer by MrsDAP at 2:35 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • Well you can't force him to marry you. Since braking up is not a option you will have to wait until he's ready.
    mysevenkids

    Answer by mysevenkids at 2:35 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • Common Law will change all that eventually. LOL
    Blabbermouth

    Answer by Blabbermouth at 2:36 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • we have been together for 6 years, and we are 20 and 22. young but we have 2 babies together. the thing is he tells me yes than no yes then maybe. he would like to then he doesnt want to. hes playing my emotions!!!!!!
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 2:36 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • You're just going to have to wait.
    liz.1986

    Answer by liz.1986 at 2:37 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • If "throwing the relationship away" isn't an option.

    Then compromise and understanding is. Understanding why he doesn't want to get married and understanding why you do. The two of you sharing those reasons and working to understand each others reasons. And then compromising on where your relationship stands and where it's going to go. Even without legally marrying, there are legal steps that can be taken to secure a "domestic partnership" (for lack of a better term) that can set up safety nets for the relationship.
    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 2:37 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • Not all states have Common Law anymore
    MrsDAP

    Answer by MrsDAP at 2:39 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

  • Of course it's an option. Just because you don't want to consider it doesn't mean it's not an option available to you. Endeavor to expand your range of options and you'll never feel trapped.

    You can do what you want to do, you just need to figure out what it is. If you really want to get married, go make that happen --with whoever will concede to it. If you really want this guy, you'll need to come to an agreement with him about how that's going to work. Half of it is completely outside your control.

    He may never be willing to do the marriage thing. You may never get married, even if you leave.

    What do you think you're going to get out of marriage that you don't have now? I mean, specifically, what do you think it means? If you can't put that into words, you're unlikely to be able to get what you want...
    LindaClement

    Answer by LindaClement at 2:40 PM on Dec. 3, 2010

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