Okay so first, I'm not pregnant yet. I've just been thinking about this a lot. I want to have another baby, and this is just something that I can't get out of my brain.
With my first I really, really wanted to have a natural birth. I've heard it's so much better, etc. I wanted to have a water birth - supposed to be easier on both mom and baby, gradual transition, weightlessness and all that. But my insurance wouldn't cover the only birthing center around that does that. So I just stuck with an OB who is close by and hoped I would be able to have the most natural hospital birth possible - just walk and move around and change positions and use massage and everything to handle the pain. It's easier to deal with pain if you can move, right?
What really wound up happening was, I was in labor for 4 days without success, so they had to give me pitocin to speed things up. On pitocin, you wind up strapped to the bed pretty much, with a catheter. So, without the option of moving around, I opted for the epidural, since I was just strapped to the bed anyway. By the time they got it in I was 8cm and hadn't experienced any noticeable amount of pain. With the epi, the only pain I felt was when it came to be time to push. My daughter was fully alert when she was born, the epi did not have any bad effects on either of us.
Anyway, so I loved my OB. He was great through my whole pregnancy. Having miscarried 3 times before, he dealt with my fears and needs very well. Now, there is a new birthing center, that does waterbirths, and they take my insurance. Except now, I'm wondering...does it really matter? Is it really worth it? I can't remember why having a natural birth was so important to me in the first place, except that one of my good friends did it with 4 of her 6 kids.
I enjoyed my first birth experience, what is so much better about going natural and being in pain? I'm going to have to decide if I just want to stick with my fantastic OB, or risk doing the natural thing and possibly regretting it.
Has anyone had one child with an epidural and all that, then the next child natural? Would you do natural again, or go back to the Epi? If you preferred the natural birth, why? Why is it so much better, when you have to be in so much pain? On the flipside, has anyone done natural the first time, then opted to get the epidural the second time? What was the better experience for you, and which would you repeat?
Answer by Ati_13 at 11:57 PM on Dec. 3, 2010
Answer by Ati_13 at 11:54 PM on Dec. 3, 2010
I have had two med-free births, the second being at home. I would sign up for that again in a heartbeat, despite the fact that my second birth was more painful then my first. Although avoiding unnecessary risks of unnecessary things was important, equally important was that I was not drugged or strapped down after birth. I literally felt so good after, there is no comparison. NONE. I would not pass that up for a few hours of avoiding labor pain. On top of physically feeling great, I felt so in awe of birth, of my own body, of everything. It was like a new awakening. At the same time though, it felt so normal, and so "everyday" because of the lack of stress (during the homebirth, that is). Both births were incredible, encouraging, painful, trying, exciting, challenging, intense, indescribable, etc. I would encourage you to read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, especially the birth stories. They are so inspiring!
Answer by squish at 12:41 AM on Dec. 4, 2010
I would say that it is also not premature to take a tour. Knowing what to expect now and what questions to hash out now could ease your mind a lot and give you the confidence to rely on that decision instead of making it when you are chalk full of hormones. :) Many women I know start the interview process prior to pregnancy or even when they are not pregnant yet. When you start thinking like a consumer when it comes to prenatal care, your outlook is very different.
I would also suggest looking int Bradley Classes (which we did as a couple, it was great), or Hypnobirthing or Birthing From Within classes (which many women love).
Answer by squish at 12:48 AM on Dec. 4, 2010
Answer by musicpisces at 12:13 AM on Dec. 4, 2010
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Answer by doulala at 3:21 AM on Dec. 4, 2010