Where do I begin? We have been together for almost 4 years, married for 1 1/2 years, we have a 2 year old and a 2 month old. I got mad at him a few weeks ago for comments that keep piling up. Things he's said to me lately are that I'm selfish, I'm a brat, I get everything I want and he gets nothing, cooking is my duty, I'm ungrateful, etc. I told him I'm upset by these things and he doesn't understand why, that he was just putting his foot in his mouth.
He says I'm a brat and get everything because 3 years ago I got a camera (I'm a photographer), and then 2 years ago I got an even nicer camera. I sold the nicer one this summer to help with bills. I also got a new phone by paying $50 and signing a new agreement. I haven't bought shoes or clothes since I got pregnant with my 1st born, and my splurges are getting the gray out of my hair, so I get upset when he says that I'm spoiled, bratty or get everything.
So he told me he doesn't get anything, but I never have enough money left over to buy him anything. So I learned how to cook and I cook him great meals, but he says that doesn't count because it's my duty, just like taking the garbage out is his.
I told him he was being a d*** and he yelled that I need to stop being so ungrateful. I don't know where to go with that because he works full-time, I work 10-30 hours a week and I take care of everything in the house. He keeps complaining that he just can't get enough sleep. I haven't had a full night of sleep since my baby was born. I ask him to take the baby for 1 night when I have to work the next morning and he'll just get all pissed off and crabby. He wasn't like that with our first son. He'd help me out without me asking.
So, I need him to help me out, yet he thinks I'm not doing enough. I need him to be supportive of the work I do for the family. And I need to find a way to not be mad/disconnected from him. Be my marriage shrink. I can't afford one! Okay, go!
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