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for those who are recently married, but have already had a child together, plus blended more children from previous..

how do you make time for eachother? We have 3 children all together, and am pregnant w/ our last due months from now.. we've been married 3 months.. im a stay at home mom and he works long hours and lots of overtime because he works for the government..........

how do i make time for just him and i? We could count on our hands how many dates we've been on with NO kids.


Asked by Anonymous at 10:00 AM on Dec. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Call around to friends, trade babysitting, when they want to go out you watch theirs, and so on.. Or call Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, anyone close enough you can trust, set up a once a month, week, 2 weeks date and stick to it. It's good for your marriage to have that time together no matter how long, or where you go.

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 10:03 AM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • Have the older children watch them and just go out walking to a coffee shop, and get a slice of cake, or coffee/ chai tea . Relax, ask the older ones, if any will they do this at least for 1 hour each night. If not set up 2-3 days per week for 2 hours lengths.
    Can you take them to a disclosed setting that's safe and have the children close by and playing, like an indoor food court / cafe'.
    When we want time out, it's rare and the play areas are safe when you see them, as well as you get talk time; and a bite to eat.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:17 AM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • ages are 5, 3, & 1 yr. lol (: so they cant watch themselves!

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 11:35 AM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • We are lucky. My oldest is 14 so he's able to watch the 2 younger ones. Before that we only got to go out together when my parents could babysit. The earlier years were a lot more stressful. I felt like I was stuck in the house while he worked long hours. We went out as a family on weekends sometimes, but during the week I was quite depressed.
    Hang in there. It does get better. And if you can, ask a trusted friend or family member to sit for you at least a couple times a month. A movie or dinner for just the two of you works wonders. Even going grocery shopping together is fun.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 12:55 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • As crazy as it sounds.... you could go to an indoor playground (McDonald's, indoor bounce houses etc... on pretty days, the park... where you have the kids with you, but they're safe, having fun and you can carry on adult conversations.
    Or... you could schedule one night a week (or whatever works) where you have a couple of hours after the kids are asleep where you have a indoor picnic, romantic dinner setting (of things like strawberries, crackers/cheese etc).
    Where there's a will, there's a way :)
    We don't let our kids go with anyone buy my sis in law, so we do a lot while they're asleep, like have coffee/conversation, movies etc.. have to find ways that work for y'all.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 3:52 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • It's so hard! We have 5 and never get time alone. ONe thing you can do is spend time together when the kids are in bed, everyday. It;s not the same as a date but put kids to bed early and you'll be alone together.

    Answer by JackieGirl007 at 7:53 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

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