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MY 13 YEAR OLD GIRL IS GOOD HEARTEDBUT OVER WEIGHT AND STRONG WILLED AND A PARENTAL ABUSER? Please advise us on our only child. adult content

she knows how to be an angel but chooses not to.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:00 PM on Dec. 4, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • show her whos boss. if you let her get away with everything, then she will. Take charge and be the parent!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:02 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • need more information, what do you mean by potential abuser?
    ItsMe89

    Answer by ItsMe89 at 2:03 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • is your concern/question about the over weight part? she is 13 and has no car, job, or money. she does not menu plan or buy the groceries. don't buy non healthy foods. eventually her weight will then go down.
    hibbingmom

    Answer by hibbingmom at 2:03 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • I wouldn't tolerate any bull sh*t like that (but there are also not enough details to this story). It's called tough love.
    AbsoluteSelf

    Answer by AbsoluteSelf at 2:04 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • maybe she is bored, lonely, etc. see if there's a class of some kind she'd like to enroll in. swimming, a babysitting course, volleyball, dance, cheerleading, soccer, etc
    hibbingmom

    Answer by hibbingmom at 2:04 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • Ok I have some problems with this. How'd she get to be a parental abuser by the time she's a pre-teen? This didn't happen overnight and if she showed signed of aggressive behavior it should have been dealt with by a professional long before now. See if you can get her in for counseling. Quit buying and fixing fattening food. If you had a better relationship with you I'd say work out as her partner. Maybe she's angry with you bc she's overweight. Sorry but you are the one who taught her how to eat and end up overweight. See if you can't fix some of the damage or at least get help with a counselor
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:23 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • Good-hearted but parental abuser? Yeah, a person can't be both. YOU are the PARENT, not her - it's called DISCIPLINE and not letting her rule you, don't be a doormat.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:03 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • i think you should always be at her side no matter what,tell her to be the boss and be strong always
    neng999

    Answer by neng999 at 5:48 PM on Dec. 4, 2010

  • get her help. she"s going through that awkward stage we all go through but it's not o.k to hit you, not sure how i would handle that if my child 13year old hit me???i really don't know but i think i would catch a case, don't think i would allow that to happen. yeah get her help good luck
    mememommie

    Answer by mememommie at 12:25 AM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • IF she is a parental abuser and hits one of you, CALL THE COPS!!!
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 12:41 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

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