I asked the question last night about my marriage being in a rut. 2 very nice women gave me advice on books to read. Those books won't get here until next week and i am still furious. Mostly because of sleep. My husband has fed our 2nd son 3 times at night in his 11 weeks of life. He wakes up at 6, works until 4. Sits on the couch and drinks beer until 7:30-8 and then goes to bed. I'm so sick of it i feel like screaming and i'm totally going to snap unless one of you gives me some ideas on how to express myself in a calm unoffensive way. I want him to start taking care of his own kids without me asking. I want him to spend time with his kids (he wants 12 kids....it's not like I forced him to have them). I want him to take the baby at night without me asking and not pout about it. I want to have a partner. How do i say this without a long conversation and without yelling? Tomorrow is football day so I have to say what I want to say during a commercial break. Which is why I think I may just end up yelling and throwing something at him.
Answer by mom2queenie2004 at 8:10 AM on Dec. 5, 2010
Answer by Jenaiko01 at 11:09 PM on Dec. 4, 2010
The only way to do this is in a calm manner. Sit down with hubby (not during a commercial) and BOTH of you write down or discuss what you want to change. You can list what you wrote here and he can list what he thinks needs to change. Then talk about it. There maybe something on your list that he can't change (like dirty diapers, lol) and there may be something on his list that you are not willing or can't change (or the expectations are too high or unreasonable). Once you talk about it, then both of you try to do your best. Good Luck!
Answer by JeremysMom at 11:09 PM on Dec. 4, 2010
Answer by bseastrand at 11:11 PM on Dec. 4, 2010
Answer by Huntersmom209 at 11:12 PM on Dec. 4, 2010