Here's the scoop -
My husband has a four year old from a previous relationship. We have joint custody and a visitation schedule that was set up by a judge when we went to court when my stepdaughter was 2 1/2. The judge ordered that her mother gets her every Christmas Eve into Christmas morning until 10am and my husband is supposed to have the child every Christmas morning starting at 10am. We did not get her last Christmas AT ALL because of bad road conditions, so this is the first year we would exercise our Christmas visitation. We suggested to her mother that we wait to pick her up until 1:00pm so that way she has time to play with the toys that she opened that morning before having to get in the car for a 4 hr car ride. Now Christmas is still 20 days away but we suggested this 2 weeks ago and she never has even acknowledged our suggestion although she has known about it. His daughter told us that "Mommy is working on Christmas Eve so Grandma is going to take me on a train to see Santa" so her mother isn't even spending her holiday time with her. As our families, like all other families, are putting plans in stone these last two weeks before Christmas, we are needing to know an answer now. So we waiting until this evening and told her mother that since she hadn't responded to us about Christmas we were going to follow the court order and pick up his daughter at 10am like we are supposed to instead of 1pm like we suggested.
I cant help but feel sorry about it all but if a judge ordered it and the mother really WANTED extra time with her only child on Christmas wouldn't she have agreed to it right away? Were we being too nice even suggesting she have a little more time since there is court order? What would you have done?
Answer by jeanclaudia at 11:17 PM on Dec. 4, 2010
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