Ok, I'm just gonna spill all this...here goes. I'm 31 and on disability due to a lung disease. I have 2 kids one almost 8 and 1 almost 2. I also have a husband who I used to think hung the moon and now I think has become one of those guys I would warn my daughter to stay away from.
It's not that I'm out to trash him, he has good qualities, we just can't get along anymore. He is constantly telling me how lazy and useless I am, and I'm constantly telling him how loud, inappropriate and disrespectful he is. We do more fighting than anything else and in front of our kids at that. Our son is too little to understand, but our daughter hears about divorce every week or so anymore. I feel so bad for her. It's like torture. She doesn't even bother to get upset and cry anymore, but I know she's being negatively affected. She's got some issues already with anger.
Our financial life is a complete wreck. He controls all the money. I have no idea what bills are paid, or not. We're already in bankruptcy, and we need to refile because we have a ton more stuff to be added which will cost almost $900 more. His paychecks are garnished every week for this. He drives an SUV that needs a ton of repairs, and my SUV has been broken down for over a year.
We're completely destroying each other and our kids and I want out...I know he does too. I just don't know how we can possibly manage to afford to be apart. I don't want to be with him, but he's the father of my kids, I don't want to see him out in the street. He has no relationship with his family. I don't know where he would even go to live. And there's more than rent that would have to be paid.
What can we do? I've never felt so stuck?!
Asked by Anonymous at 9:10 AM on Dec. 5, 2010 in Relationships
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Answer by cara124 at 10:33 AM on Dec. 5, 2010
You can work it out with him. I am sure if it came down to it that he would be there for not only you but the kids as well. Keep the faith sister.
Answer by sexyfancyface at 1:09 PM on Dec. 5, 2010