For years my bf has been taking the blame for his father's extra marital affairs. He did it justifying it with loving his family too much to be the one responsible for breaking it up so he has done things (at his father's request) like tell his step mother the condom was his and more. One time his father had him pick him up from a "massage parlor" because the cops showed up and he didn't want to get into his car that was registered under his name. My bf has kept his mouth shut and occasionally advised to father to stop before he loses everything. Plus, now he has me and my kids and he wants to build this family, his family. He can't keep taking the blame now that he has his own family and partner to be faithful to.
Well, yesterday his father gave him $1,000 towards the down-payment we need for a newer family car. His wife went through the business (he and his father have their own business) account and saw ATM withdrawals. $100 here and there for several months. She saw the $1,000 withdrawal and didn't believe it went to my bf. His father panicked and blamed my bf for using the business account to steal $100 here and there adding up to close to $2,000.00. His father called him while at the dealership to return the money as punishment for stealing. His father told me that his son is lucky he still wants him to work for the business and won't file a police report. I told him he should because a thief deserves to be punished but that I know what my bf has in his wallet and account and there is no extra. In fact, his father has not reported his son's income to the IRS for several months (probably for his own selfish benefit) so we found out yesterday that news on top of everything else.
It only makes sense that he would use his business account and not his accounts that are easily accessible to his wife in order to get the money for those massage houses. My bf new that something was going to happen because his father has been very forgetful and stressed and when he's supposed to be at the office all day, he takes off for hours at a time and no one will know where he is.
My bf's plan is to go get a job elsewhere and finally free himself from his father. But I know that idea is hurting him because he does love his father very much.
What would you do? I'm confused and upset. Also, I have known about his father's "hobbies" for months now but have stayed out of it since that's his family, not mine.
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