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Does it seem like a lot of people are pushing their kids to do things sooner and sooner?

Is it like a status symbol to have a kid that speaks three languages, reads, walks at 4 months, and is fully potty trained by 12mos? I don't get it. Why is it so important to have your kids do everything early? It's going to happen.

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Musicmom80

Asked by Musicmom80 at 9:36 PM on Dec. 5, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Oh my yes! Why should a baby be reading at 18 months??
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:37 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • I think the same thing sometimes. Other mom's will ask "Is your boy doing XYZ yet?" and I could care less. It doesn't mean that they are any smarter.
    layh41407

    Answer by layh41407 at 9:38 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • Also our schools are pushing more for Kindergarten..... What most kids in my day (im 27) learned in K.. is now being covered in PreK..
    MommaTasha1003

    Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 9:38 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • Teacher here: MommaTasha is right about schools pushing harder. Kindergarten is no longer just playtime, naptime, and ABC's.

    BUT BUT BUT....I am totally in agreement with parents pushing too hard. Which is why I held my A+ student back a year in K b/c I wanted him to have time to slow down and mature before school took off without him being ready. BEST DECISION EVER!

    But I see parents in our area pushing kids in sports...BIG TIME! Too much, parents who treat little league like the Major league. Sad!
    mom2twobabes

    Answer by mom2twobabes at 9:41 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • I agree so much!! I put my 3 year old in head start, mostly so he could interact with other kids his age more, and it's amazing at what they think they should already know!! I'm sorry, but I'm not going to push my kid just because someone else thinks he should know all this stuff already. I know he's smart, but he doesn't have to be able to read yet to prove that.
    montanagal2005

    Answer by montanagal2005 at 9:43 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • It' my favorite mommy Musicmom08! Yeah but I totally agree, more and more parents are really pushing their kids to do more and more things at such young ages. Some parents get worried when their kids dont reach these outrageous milestonesor even think they're behind when they're actually progressing at their own speed. (I'm not talking about kids with physical or mental disabilities either).

    Jenaiko01

    Answer by Jenaiko01 at 9:44 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • Really Jenaiko? LOL I'm blushing...
    Musicmom80

    Comment by Musicmom80 (original poster) at 9:45 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • I agree. It makes me so confused as a first time mother! I'm always like "Hubby, so and so's son is doing this, should we being doing something different" it makes me feel guilty cause I think my son will do things on his own time.
    usdragonflies

    Answer by usdragonflies at 11:09 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • o.k. but what if your feeling pressured from the school. I feel my son is pretty typical for a young four year old boy. He is starting a new preschool in January and the teacher sent home a questionaire on what he can and cannot do. There was alot on there he could not do. When talking to her she seemed more academic oriented then letting kids learn while playing. So I feel like now I should try harder to get him to "catch up".
    sandbuster

    Answer by sandbuster at 11:13 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

  • sandbuster, take the note to your pedatrician and get things cleared up. If he's not developmentally behind the note means nothing. Maybe discuss it with his teacher.
    Musicmom80

    Comment by Musicmom80 (original poster) at 11:15 PM on Dec. 5, 2010

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